As
human beings we have a singular communication unlike any other life form we are
aware of that opens the doors of connectivity in a way that has the potential
for an immense profundity, meaning, and emotional exchange. We as human beings have the potential
to not merely communicate, to not merely connect, but to transcend the
mechanical methodologies of inter-personal exchange to a level of
relating. The concept of relating
is the foundation for a relationship, and it is something so common to our
quotidian way of living that we are lost entirely to the fuller measure and
dimensionality of relating.
We
as human beings all share this special gift and the potential to use it in what
amounts to the very essence of living.
One meets another and can find no common ground. Their interests are entirely dissimilar
and their views on life, the perspective gained through a lifetime of
responding to experience, can find no commonality. No mutual talents or gifts from within two lives of inauthentic living can be found and no passions for any meaningful purpose can be
agreed upon. It can safely be said
that such a connection involves no level of relating offering absolutely no
potential for a meaningful relationship.
However,
one meets another and each find they have a common history with similar
qualities and aspects. In finding
this inter-personal shared life experience it is discovered that, grounded in
shared essence of experience, each aspire to like interests having lived common
life dynamics. Most profoundly,
each finds that the other views life through a similar lens. Each has a flourishing of distinctive
qualities but they unite in a synthesis whose level of meaning knows no
bounds. And whether or not each
share common talents and gifts, most certainly each will enjoy the unique
qualities of the other and offer a sincere and selfless source of life's support towards mutual endeavors. It may
certainly be said that such a pair transcends connectivity and embraces the
wonders and limitless emotional, cognitive, and spiritual sensibilities that
are the reality of relating on a level more than superficial and authentic in
every aspect.
It
is a great gift of life for two souls to meet, to connect, to relate, and
through laws of attraction, fall in love leading towards marriage. But there is something very special to
be said of two souls who meet, they connect, they relate profoundly, without any laws of attraction, without any given benefit or reward, with no
motivation to the relationship other than what is the substance of one of life’s great miracles.
As
children meet and find unity in commonality they form friendships. Many of these are lasting. Throughout the progress of maturing and
into adulthood, more friendships are formed, while others may diminish. As two individuals marry and begin a
family, the lasting friendships are set aside for occasional visits and other
infrequent reasons to meet, something that becomes more and more difficult as
the world holds the busy schedule like a carrot before the donkey.
Those
friendships, the kind which transcend connectivity and through relating form a fully-dimensional
relationship, where are these relationships in their totality to be found
amongst the world’s confounding and demanding dynamics, societal norms and
expectations, and both external and internal pressures on time and energy? They are to be found in full fruition, to the utmost depth,
with the greatest benefits to the sensibilities, with no hint of any kind of
worldly gratification, amongst those truly blessed, truly honest, truly humble
and truly authentic.
For
it is in this special and rare relationship designated for the blessed, honest,
humble and authentic, that a relationship of complete divine purity can be
found between two souls invested in each other, after well established
communication and shared experience, solely for the pure love of the other, a
love devoid of any worldliness but one of selfless giving and unavoidable
caring.
This
post means a tremendous amount to me and I write it for very personal
reasons. Many of you know my
history and know my struggles and know my dedication and perseverance as I continue to progress in conquering the unconquerable.
But, through my agonizing life journey, I have been alone in the
world, alone until I discovered the beauty that is the rare and wonderful
reality of friendship.
As
I will never have my own family, as I continue to combat disability,
friendship has given me more happiness in this life than any blessing thus
far. Without my sole mate, I would
continue to endure, alone, unendurably. But this does not have to be. For my best friend, I am more grateful
than any gift in my life. I love him, I honor his personal life struggle and his incredible journey, I
learn from him, I grow with him and I cry with him. Together we have no expectations beyond filling the void that each fills for the other, to be filled with beauty and truth. I dedicate this post to this most
important person in my life, Mr. Austin P. Saget.
